Her Free Stuff is So Expensive

I know of a lady, who is the most generous person I have ever met, she will give you free stuff. Clothes right off her back, shoes right off her feet, her bag right off her arm, she would give them to you all free, but it’s the most expensive free stuff that you will ever get.
She will shower you with complements, help you with resources, give you anything you need even if she remains in want, but its so expensive, taking her free stuff. Her stuff is free but definitely not cheap. It comes with a price tag that most of us cannot afford.

For everything free thing she gives you will have to pay for it. Its do costly.
So how can free stuff be expensive? She will make any demand of you at any time she wants because she gave you free stuff. She will take anything she wants from you coz you have her clothes on your back and her shoes on your feet. She will reserve the right to judge you with harsh words and you wouldn’t be able to say anything because… you got her free stuff. She will call you names and order you around because….
The price of her free stuff is your joy, your happiness you piece of mind and a guilty conscience because you did take her free stuff!
When I was younger, I was rich with innocence, joy and so cheerful, no judgment would put me down. I was so rich I could afford all her free stuff. I would buy her free stuff in the bundles. But over the years, I have had to pay more than one supplier of free expensive stuff and my wealth has depleted and am broke of tough skin, I am broke of joy and innocence and I cant afford free expensive stuff anymore. I wish I could return the free stuff I bought for my joy and piece of mind, I wish I could return the free clothes for my happiness, I wish I could return those free shoes now for less harsh words. But its too late, I already bought the free expensive stuff, and I will probably have to pay for it for the rest of my life.
But there is hope for me yet. I will not buy anymore free stuff, I will stay away from the free expensive clothes and the free expensive jewellery, coz I aint got any more buying in me and I cant afford the free expensive stuff.

I know there is someone reading this who has been buying expensive free stuff. Don’t buy it any more coz it gets more costly by the day. The prices of free stuff is sky rocketing and this kind of inflation is definitely not good for you if you’re broke like me!

Peace at All Costs

Peace is a very important aspect of life. Peace of mind, peace at heart, peace within is what most people look for. Most social relationships can put some one under stress. Family and friends are all there for the greater good but they can be quite a pain most of the time.
Ever find yourself letting a lot of things slide just to maintain peace and harmony. Well its hard to find that happy place where peoples rants and rampages do not get you pulling your hair out of your head.

Most of the time the people you have close in your life feel that they own the mandate to judge you just coz they know you, at times they are right but most of the times whatever they say is a complete exaggeration of the truth leaving you fill misunderstood and at times you might just want to go off.
Family and friends will always take you things, both your physical property and your spiritual stuff. That’s what they do, take, take and take some more, you cant deny them coz you love them but at times you just cant stand it. It can be a very frustrating place to be.
Take for example you have a favourite pair of slippers

, every body in the house know you love your slippers to pieces yet you still see them strutting their corns and calluses in hour precious slippers. You could go off, lose it and pry your slippers off their feet, get into an argument that will completely veer of the topic of slippers. Keep the slippers and loose the piece of mind of a good family relationship or let it slide, get a new pair of sandals and enjoy a loving and healthy relationship with your family… its just a pair of slippers anyway.
Basically what you need to do with family is learn the art of letting it slide. Not every injustice is a war, family will always be family and amid all the craziness, they will still love you in their own wicked twisted way. That’s what its all about….love and peace at all costs. Word!

Old Ain't Gold No More!

The content of this blog post may be a bit controversial and it would be easy for me to put up a disclaimer, say I don’t mean to offend anyone with my words. But I don’t want to put up one, because somebody is going to get offended by this. It is unfortunate that they will but I have a strong conviction that what I am saying is real and I can’t tag any disclaimer to reality!
It really bugs me the way old folks nowadays are ragging on young people for being disrespectful. Talking of the way today’s generation bears rotten morals especially when it comes to respect. But my encounter with this ‘new generation of old folks’ tells me something else about respect and how much they don’t deserve it.
I believe respect is not aged….it is earned. It is earned from the kind of character that you carry yourself with and how much you respect your own self. Though there is a lot you can learn from the older generation, the scales tips on either sides for both the good and the bad stuff. Many people live reckless lives making foolish mistakes and still bark for respect even when they are not worth it, just because of their age.

My bone of contention rests particularly with an incident that recently occurred in a public service vehicle. So this not so old guy boards the bus I was in, he was looking very respectable, around forty something, wearing a suit in face and looking like he had just left the office for home. The bus conductor starts asking for fare and everybody dips into there pockets to pay accordingly. But this particular old guy refuses to pay the fare! The young conductor politely asks the old guy to pay up like every body else…. This is where it really gets my guns……..the old guy tells the conductor that he is old enough to be his dad and he shouldn’t be made to pay the fare!!!! Then he starts tying to drum up support from the rest of the passenger about how the conductor is shamelessly asking him for fare yet he is old. Calling him disrespectful and all. And the whole time am thinking ‘using your age to get a free ride in a bus’?! If it was my dad, he would want my business to do well and he would support me in any way, including paying the fare!
I have a whole load of stories about how old people use their age to try and solicit favors like it is some handicap to sell themselves on. Age definitely deserves recognition, and I would give a thumbs up for anybody who has managed to live way longer than me. It is a hell of a world out there and every body is trying to make something out of it without some old person trying to suck your for every thing you’ve got just because they are old.
I give respect to those who deserve it, I give help to those who are helpless, and I speak for those who have lost their voice. There are truly old people who actually deserve the special treatment. Just because some few strands of hair turned grey doesn’t mean you can go around demanding for what you don’t deserve. Respect is a two way traffic.

IS FAT REALLY FIERCE?

So this is my first blog post and am thinking isn’t it wierd that some stranger out there is going to be reading my thoughts and silently judging me or somebody is going to be riding on my every word. But there is somewhat comfort in knowing that I can express myself and reach out to somebody somewhere. So much for an intro!

So the other day I recently joined the gym and this was met by protests from my friends, trying to convince me that I look fine and I don’t need the gym. My thought of the gym is a place to keep fit and keep active though most people’s misconception is that people go the gym to loose weight. I might say am a bit soft around the middle but when I signed up for the gym, I was more concerned about my health in terms of realistic fitness. I want to have strong bones; good lungs, good circulation and I want to age gracefully.

I have a big issue with the way people nowadays perceive weight, especially with reference to overweight people.  Tyra says own your look, Oprah says don’t let anybody put you down cause of your looks. But I think people have lost the true meaning of these phrases and ran with it and allowed themselves to be unhealthy under the pretence of ‘owning their look’.

There is nothing glamorous about being fat or overweight. And I am not just saying this to pick on people with a little extra weight here and there. I am talking about your insides and not your outsides. Having fat clogged veins and sky rocketing blood pressure and blood sugar levels has nothing glamorous about it. Not being able to turn your own shoelaces without feeling like all the blood is rushing to your face or walking uphill without running out of breath is very unpretty. Adorning your outsides with designer clothing that flatter your curves or hips should not be a substitute for the terrible degradation that is going on in your insides.

I am not saying its bad to be curvy or cuddly, but it’s important to look after your health. Attaining beauty from inside to the outside. Next time before you snap your fingers and call fat-> fierce, think about your heath and the quality of life you want to live……………. In or out of the emergency room.