My Two Cents Worth!

I often share most of my thoughts about stuff beginning with a disclaimer of how much I really don’t know about life (it’s a ridiculous paradox and I have no idea where I picked it up from!). I have been a victim of the phrase “I may not know a lot about life but….” Well, now I think that phrase is utterly useless to me. Sigmund Freud is the father of psychoanalysis and he came up with Oedipus complex which basically states that if someone messes you up sexually as a child, you are going to be a messed up adult!

Now, hold your horses there cowboy, don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate the milestones that Freud has helped us achieve in understanding human behavior. But all he did was put two and two together and come up with facts that already existed. I think what made him great is the breakdown of the complex into particulate aspects (I can’t do that).

So now I believe that I also do know a thing or two about life, and putting together a few basic facts and aspects of human behavior, I may not be as good as Sigmund, but here’s my two cents worth!

• You know how they usually say “common sense is not common”? Well, every sound minded human being has levels of intelligent as much as the next guy in the bus. However. Utilizing these sense it a choice that many people decide not to opt for. Choosing to use a spoon to spread margarine on your loaf instead of a butter knife is too simple of an example as compared to expecting other people to love you when you don’t love yourself!

• In your lifetime, there is one person who is perfect for you. A person whose qualities perfectly match and complement yours. You will Never meet this person. Therefore you need to work with what you’ve got. Create your own paradise and make it work. I hate it when people say true love is not supposed to be hard work, it’s supposed to come easy and all those other lies that people tell themselves so that they don’t have to put any effort in relationship. It’s pretty simple, if you want to enjoy the pork chops, you have to earn the money to buy the house and the kitchen and the pots and pans where you will cook them from!

• People don’t know where you came from, the hood or wherever! So don’t expect people to treat you like they had the whole previous night to cram your personal history file. Next time I hear someone use that phrase “don’t judge me! You don’t know where I came from…” by jolly I will……….!!!What people know about you is what you give to them. Therefore, if you want people to respect you, be a respectable person, if you want people to understand that you are a strong willed person, will your way to their hearts. Besides, where you come from is not the issue…where you are going is what we are looking at.

• Oh and don’t get me started on men and women equality issues! Unless men start breastfeeding and women grow balls, there will never be equality. What people need to adapt to is equity. There is quite a significant line between equity and equality. Equality is trying to accord exactly the same opportunity to the two which never works cause men and women have such different emotional build. However, equity refers to giving credit where its due and offering equal opportunity and resource to the different niches that each person exist in. therefore men should bow down to women for giving birth and women should appreciate that men take out the trash…

• Finally if you’re looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right you must be out of your mind! Perfect does not exist….case example? Fairy tales! The best way to learn that it can never be perfect, one princess kisses a frog and a man falls in love with a woman who is half a fish! The point is that special person will never be perfect, but when you accept them for who they are, their inner beauty is revealed to you. The frog turned into a handsome prince didn’t he?


Ah the feeling of liberation right from my gut telling me to share my two cents is frothing from within… or it could just be gas. Either way, watch out for more!

TC!

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HOME ALONE! The Revelation

Remember the 1990 film that every 90s and 80s kid watched a million times “Home alone”? You know that great feeling that you get when you are home alone, and you get the chance to do everything you have always been told not to do, touch everything that you aren’t supposed to touch? Well, you would know that feeling if you were a ten year old!

However, am 22 now and home alone, but I cannot help it but feel that same urge to venture into the unknown. Not the same as Kevin McCallister discovering the basement, but all this free time has given me an opportunity to uncover things that I hadn’t before.

Well the revelations that I have experience since my holiday started came after a series of time wasting activities. I tried cooking, cleaning, washing and watching! Even took a million photos at every imaginable angle, put my phone recorder to some good use and ran my own singing talent show (I sang Adele ‘Someone Like You’ ). In fact, I believe the only thing that kept me sane is my work writing online content articles.



Every morning when my mum and my sister leave for work and I have a clean 10 hours to spend alone, my mind just goes into this deep realm of thought. I think about my future both in the short term and long term future. I also think about my past and how far I have come. I don’t have a certain scale which I can use to rank my progress, but I think am doing well.

When I was young, my holidays were spent hanging out with friends, eating and sleeping. But now, my hours of sleep have been slashed down to a bare minimum, my friends are all engaged and well eating doesn’t bring the same amount of soul satisfaction that it used to. My holidays are now spent thinking of how to make money, how to Not relax, how to keep busy!

Being home alone has brought me great revelations. It’s funny how this 3 week holiday has led me to completely change my game plan for life….I feel like it’s been ages! But I have been home alone for only two weeks. Soon I will have to get back to work, and I think I finally realize the use of this short break.

A holiday is supposed to bring pace you down when life’s speeds are moving too fast( before the holiday started I was a full time student working a part time job to keep my wallet bulging), it’s supposed to give you time to reroute if need be, evaluate progress and forge on with renewed strength. I can’t say I wasted my first two weeks of being home alone(all those activities just helped me to relax), but now that I know the true purpose of this holiday, I can use the few remaining days to wisely fulfill its purpose.
TC!

To Be or Not To Be? Decisions Decisions.....

I am not an expert in life matters, heck I have no documented qualifications to give any advice about life matters to anyone. However, all that I speak, I derive from what I see, from what I feel and from what my heart and my mind dictates to me. I think that is the perfect definition of an ‘opinion’ of which each and every human being is entitled to. In my writing, I get so immersed in the point that am trying to put across that sometimes I think I sound like a blabbering idiot. My mind operates on overdrive and I go at it like an athlete on steroids. All in all I try to keep on track and I only hope that someone out there understands me, or can make sense of what I say. With that said, I take this opportunity to warn you that the following might be the worst bout or most confusing of my creative rants!

Making choices is what life is all about and a common feature in many of my rants. At any point in life, someone is making a decision for someone else, making their own decisions or having decisions made for them. All the above scenarios can be at any stage of life, whether gown up or just a child. Decisions still have to be made.
Don’t we wish there was some huge guide book from the powers to be where we could all refer before making any decision? Some place where we could go to check is the decision we are to make is right or wrong. Why is that? Why do we always need to seek approval before making a choice? Seeking advice from friends and family, asking GOD?
We try to convince ourselves that we do this in order to make the best choice, to beat the odds. This is where it really gets twisted….. I chose to disagree! I think we seek approval in making decision in order to have someone to blame if we make the wrong choice and quite rarely someone to thank if it is the right one.
Decisions are all about benefits or consequences. That is why they are called decision, there are many options to choose from and not all of them are beneficial to us. Picking one thing may shift the whole equilibrium as opposed to choosing the other. And when it goes bad, we are really in trouble.
No one will ever come up with a formula that we can use to derive the odds or probability for making the right choice. Wrong choices are made every day and there is nothing much we can do about it. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying one should not seek help in making decisions. All I am saying is that we should be ready for the outcome, ready to stand up for the choices we make, ready to take the triumph or the fall for it regardless.
Here’s my little tip/opinion about making a choice, a decision in life. There is an innate instinct in all of us towards right or wrong, many have come up with names for it….free will? Either way, we all know what is right and what is wrong, even though sometimes we pretend we don’t. I gather that we should always listen to that small voice (not that I have voices in my head or anything!) that tells us to do what is right. Fear of opposition, failure or ridicule is always real, but when you make the right choice, trust me the universe will always have respect for that. It may take a day, a month or years but you will still earn the respect for the right choices you make…….
XoXo!

FAIRY TALES

Social websites are the plague of today’s generation….. People spend hours on the net missing out on bumping into their future ex girlfriends at the park 
Getting right into it, social networking sites have greatly affected the currents society’s overview of love, relationships and heartbreak.

Facebook and Twitter are the main culprits where people instantly fall in love with profile pictures that have been airbrushed by Photoshop applications, but only after being taken in the precisely chosen lighting and from the best side of the face of course…..

Newbies in the social websites may not have the same expertise in dealing with the constant flirting and we’ll booty calls so to say. The following are some of the most absurd things I have noticed about social sites that makes people disillusioned about love, sex and heartbreak:

1. Commenting on my posts automatically makes me think you’re interested in me, except if we are blood related.

2. Long inbox threads or TL conversations count as “getting to know each other”
3. A hot profile means she/he is the one.

4. Asking to hook up means we have had enough time to know each other online and we can probably trust each other enough to call it a relationship and copulate!

5. If another person flirts with your online crush…..hehe… this means war!

I wonder how we can get over this sort fairly tail mentality

where Mr. Right now is meant to fall right into your laps from God knows where or….adds you as a friend. Laying claim to a person that you have never met before when most probably ten other people.

There are certain facts that people need to know: profile pictures can be edited, statuses can be quoted from poems, books or songs and the internet is not the place to be looking for love or any other kind of affection for that matter.
However I will give it to those people who have made realistic relationships from social sites. However these relationships where built on something far more beyond the keyboard, a screen and a good internet connection.

Am also concerned about the general safety of anyone who plans to meet with a stranger that they met off the net, criminals and sociopaths take advantage of the vulnerability of individuals to commit crimes and much worse than those heinous crimes is the risk of infections with STIs. *drops mic*